Cell Phone Boundaries, Security, Rules, and Principles

Do you control your cell phone use, or are you at the beck and call of your cell phone? Can you not answer the phone? Can you turn it off? Can you not look when it vibrates or rings? Can you set boundaries around your cell phone use, or are you addicted? If you feel your cell phone is controlling you, then get help! The mind and body modalities that I use can really help you.

Our brains are being changed by cell phone use. We are not staying aware enough to keep us safe or be considerate of others. I’ve pulled together information and a set of etiquette rules for various situations to help raise your awareness and keep your behavior more appropriate to the physical situation around you. Hopefully they will be helpful to you.


Confidentiality and Security

  • Know that there is no security for mobile calls, texts or email, no matter what the company says. You would be surprised what information is gleaned all the time from those devices.
  • Any calls spoken in public are not private, no matter what you are thinking or feeling.
  • If the tracking feature is on your GPS or pictures, anyone (including predators) can find you or your children.


Basic Rules

There are three basic rules that are easy to remember. They are good guidelines to follow when you are around others.

  1. Don’t use your cell phone when you are occupied with another task that involves others.
  2. Don’t use your cell phone in any enclosed space when others are present.
  3. Don’t use your cell phone while you are driving.


Principles of Cell Phone Use

It is your responsibility to use your cell phone inoffensively. It is not other people's responsibility to cope with your cell phone use. Please note that "inoffensively" is not defined by what you expect others to tolerate but is defined by what others do in fact find offensive. Consider whether you want someone to come up to you and yell at you. Your cell phone use has the same level of impact on others in public.

When you are in public, assume that someone who asks you to turn your cell phone or music down or off has an important reason, and you should comply in good faith. The person is probably not trying to dominate you or hassle you or restrict your right to free expression. Some people with temporal lobe epilepsy may find that certain sounds trigger seizures, and some people have neurosensory issues that cause extraneous noise to be a severe difficulty, rather than a mild annoyance to them. Some people react to EMF/RF (electromagnetic frequency/radio frequency) and are trying to be functional in public.